Tia Mowry never saw her son’s jealousy until baby Aden came on scene. It wasn’t until she was holding her sister Tamera and Adam’s son for the first time that she realized how jealous Cree,1, could be.
“I had never seen him get jealous before, but I guess seeing Momma hold a new baby was not a sight he wanted to see,” wrote Tia in her most recent blog.
As a result, Mowry decided to give a few methods of curbing jealousy that she uses to divert Cree’s envy to parents:
Tip #1: Prepare
“Before baby is even born, you can start involving your first child in the process. He can even come along to your prenatal check ups and see your ultrasound!”
“Do everything you can to make him feel included and loved, and help ingrain in him that just because he’s going to have a new sibling doesn’t mean you will forget about him.”
Tip #2: Interact
“Find ways that your older child can get involved when you’re taking care of the new baby. Can they hold them? Sing to them? ‘Teach’ them something? Anything that includes him will help him understand that just because you have someone new to love doesn’t mean you love him any less.”
Tip #3: Promote
“When the older child is nearby, try to talk to baby about him out loud. For example, you can say something like, ‘Baby, look what your big brother did! He tied his own shoes. When you get older he can teach you how!”
“It’ll make your older child feel proud, while also helping him realize that it might actually be fun to ‘show the ropes’ to the baby when he or she gets older.”
Tamera Mowry-Housley talks postpartum depression…
“I got a message a few weeks ago from user Shani M. asking if I’ve experienced Post-Partum Depression, or PPD as it is commonly called,” Tamera writes. “I’m so glad she asked, because it’s a topic that I think a lot of mommas need to know more about!”
“I was so worried that I was going to get it because I have experienced depression before, and let me just tell you that it is no fun at all (obviously),” she continues.
“It’s a very scary situation to go through, and I was especially worried about going through it again after having Aden. Luckily, I didn’t get it – but, I did do enough research to feel like I would be prepared if I did. I wanted to share that with you since I know there are mommies out there who have been asking for advice.” - Tamera Mowry
Difference between PPD and baby blues…
“First, do your research,” she says. “Know that there is a difference between PPD and “baby blues” – baby blues are normal and 50-80% of moms experience them. The symptoms are mild, with some ups and downs, weepiness and stress after the baby is born.”
“Remember though, baby blues only last about two weeks after delivery! Anything longer is considered PPD. If you do think you have PPD, educate yourself on the issue. Knowing if you’re showing symptoms or at risk can help you be prepared if it arrives, and soften the blow.”
A strong support system is important!
“Second, if you do have PPD, build up a support system to be there for you,” she adds. “Believe me, you will need them! Your spouse and friends will be the key to getting through this – and you will, I know it.”
“Just make sure to get in touch with a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in the field if you suspect you have PPD. He or she will be able to give you a roadmap to recovery, with sleep and nutrition plans and physical and emotional support.”
Get medication if you are struggling…
“Third, talk to your specialist about medicine,” she continues. “There natural remedies that have been shown to be effective like fish oil and Vitamin B, but sometimes you need prescription medicine to do the trick. It completely depends on the individual woman and her own needs.”
“Just make sure to let your psychiatrist know if you are breastfeeding so you don’t get recommended something that may affect the quality of your breast milk.”
You are not alone!
“Last of all, know that you are not alone! PPD is not “weird” and you are not a loser or considered “weak” if you get it,” she writes. “Around 20% of women experience PPD – it’s the most common postpartum mood disorder and affects around 1 in 7 mommies in the world.”
“If you think you have PPD, just do your research, surround yourself with loved ones, and find a good specialist who will be able to help you get through it. You deserve to be happy and your baby deserves a healthy mommy!”
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